#caregiver
To the person who posted sadness and grief due to no support what so ever from family. By the time I replied it was removed. Unfortunately it was an outline of what most of us experience.
I’m so sorry this is happening, unfortunately this is pretty much how it is for most of us. Not that that makes it any easier, or better, or acceptable. Not to center myself here but I’ll share as it may help. I had to grieve. I had to grieve a lot, still grieving and let go. Let go of structures, dynamics, and expectations, of what I thought life could, should or would be like. I literally had to look elsewhere for support. Not that I have any now, with the exception of my stroke caregiver groups. I take breaks when I can. I don’t look to old relationships, relatives, or friends as any type of support system. I had to let it all go, it was too upsetting, too infuriating, and frankly too disgusting, for me to look at. I was angry all the time, and I often still do get angry. Because it’s not acceptable. We didn’t come into this world to do life alone. To get married and be alone, have children and be alone. To endure sickness alone, to die alone. We’re supposed to have community, and be in community. We need support.
Take tiny breaks when you can. Say your peace with your relatives and begin to put you as a priority as often as you can. You matter.